Sunday, December 29, 2013

Love Spells & Your Sphere of Availability

Lately I have been asked on more than one occasion about the Love Spell on my site that more or less binds you to the one you choose, forever. This seems to scare a number of folks and it should because what you are doing is limiting the amount of people you interact with romantically-sexually to just one at the cost of your freedom and ability to go beyond those limitations.

You need to understand that you are making an oath - a pledge, a sworn statement, a promise to the Spirits of Love who are mentioned in the spell that you want this one person and you will be faithful to them. Perod. No wiggle room allowed. Thus if s/he cheats on you, you had better NOT cheat on them for revenge else the Spirits will take issue with your cheating and punish you severely.

Now while this IS a powerful spell, realize there are caveats. One of the biggest ones is ‘you must find a suitable partner who is within your sphere of availability’. Did you get that? Do you understand what that implies? First off a suitable partner is one who is into you and what you do. Secondly, your sphere of availability is limited by many factors such as:

a. age - sorry folks if you’re not in the age range of the person you’re attracted to’s age limitations, then you’re barking up the wrong tree. Thus if you’re a young whippersnapper and you have the hots for a 30+ y/o lass, and she’s really not interested in anyone under the age of 30, go find someone else. If you’re an old fart who likes the young girls around 20 y/o, and they want guys more their age, you’re fooling yourself and you are stupid for doing so.

b. background - this covers where you come from, who is your family background, your medical history, credit history and etc. Let’s face facts: if you grew up on the wrong side of the tracks, unless the gal you pine for has a thing for bad boys, it’s doubtful she’s going to be interested. If he’s a big star and you’re a person with no credits to your name, the chances are slim to none of his romantic interest. Or let's say you have the hots for some actor or rock star. Good luck, so do a LOT of others. You think a mere spell is going to pull that one in for you? Doubtful. Try meeting him/her once, maybe at a backstage signing and see if there's any sparks. May cost you a few hundred bucks to meet your dreamboat but you'll quickly see you are one of many to them.

c. finances - okay money talks, bullshit walks, right? Money  cannot buy you happiness however it can allow you to throw lavish parties where you can invite a whole lot of the people you’re interested in; purchase nice clothes so you look good and looks are important; get you a nice home in the suburbs where lovely women like to build a nest; and so on. If you’re struggling to make it, some folks may take notice and give you kudos but for long term relationships, it’s doubtful you’ll attract the gorgeous little thing you find adorably cute to go out with you especially when there are guys making a lot more than you are who are available.

d. attitude - whether you believe it or not, your personal attitude will either draw people to you or push them away. The ideal is to draw them to you thus you may need to change your outlook on life and do a mental make over. You can’t succeed in life by being a Sour Sam all the time. Thus if your nature is geared towards the negative side of life, you’re going to have to hunt to find the perfect fit for your melancholy mindset.

e. physical appearance - yes it IS a major factor. Some women spend thousands of dollars every year getting hair, nails, facials and then shopping for clothes that fit and allow them to look their best. You waltz around in torn jeans, old tee shirts & rarely comb your hair and you want a 10? Yeah think again bub. Sure there are some gals who love the mussed up look but they also like six pack abs and drop dead looks on the guys who can dress like that and get away with it. If you’re over weight and you want a really pretty girl, you should consider joining a gym and working out and eating better. ‘Lose the weight to get a date’ ought to be your mantra.

f. health - sorry but this is important. Some men & women are not interested in someone they may have to take care of in a few years for the rest of their lives. Yeah I know many do it because it’s love and guys like New Gingrich have abandoned their spouses lying sick in the hospital room so they can further their careers, their fun & their sexual opportunities. Is that lame? Yup it is but that’s how many folks are. They’re selfish and you need to find out how your potential S/O feels about health before you go tossing your interest into the spell.

Unfortunately we live in a world where people have unrealistic expectations. They assume Magic will fix everything for them. Unh-unh. Sorry. It does not happen that way. Love is fickle, it is often fleeting and it can be painful.

I often tell my students that reality is a combination of three things: Fate, Luck & Free Will. Now many of you say that there is no such things as fate or luck but you’re talking out your ass. You’re living in a world of scientific equations and you expect one day to figure it all out - you just have to find the right equation. Good luck. You’re about as hopeless as those Ceremonial MagicKians are who are trying to find the lost, sacred, most powerful Magic word and it doesn't exist.

Using the love spell as a backdrop, let’s look at how fate, luck & free will enter into the picture, okay? It’s simple:

Fate says your love spell to find the right mate will work. 

Luck will bring you X amount of suitable partners. 

Free Will allows you to choose one of those partners.

Fate is the things in life that ARE going to happen to you without your approval whether you like them or not. For instance, it may be that you’re going to marry-divorce-remarry more than once.

Luck is simply the randomness that manifests things in your life like suitable partners. True out of 10 potential suitors there may be only one who is ideally suited to you but that does not mean they are the only one. One of the other 9 may be willing to change enough to suit you.

Free Will is simply your personal choice in the situation. Out of the 10 choices for a potential mate, you choose one. Simple enough.

That’s how it goes.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Love Spells - the Truth!

It is about time someone finally educated you ladies and lads out there on what what love spells are and actually do and do NOT do. I have finally had my fill of people wanting a love spell done but then they want everything to be hunky dory and permanent. Um, sorry sister but it’s time you woke up and smelled some coffee.

We live in a modern society where there are literealy more people in one state than there were in all of Europe during the Middle Ages. Today the opportunity to find a lasting love is as close as the Internet connection and this causes a lot of trouble. Further today we have a vast arrary of media at our disposal that gives us plenty to look at.

What many of you ladies (& some lads) want is you want a ‘permanent bend over’ spell. You think you want a love spell but when I ask you what that entails, I hear, “I want him to love me and only me for all time and eternity!” Wow! Not much of a choice in that is there? Yet most of you gals have very little understanding in what a love spell actually is let alone how it works.

Love magic involves a ‘drawing towards’ type of spell. You are looking to find a man (or woman) who will be passionate, romantic, enthralled and filled with you. Do you know why this is? Because you watch too much damn TV! You read those dime store smut novels called Harlequin Romance stories and you think that is what love is.

A love spell will draw a person to you. If you don’t have a particular person in mind, the magic will work to find someone suitable because everyone wants someone compatible. However, Ms. I-Know-What-I-Want thinks she has to have Mr. Handsome Hunk so she requests him. Okay so the spell is worked and yeah he meets you and maybe is enthralled with you enough to sleep with you. You’re a woman after all and he is a man.

The problem does not end there. Ms. I-Know feels he is right for her so she decides to grab a book on Witchcraft or Sorcery and buys the items necessary for the spell. She works it and nada. Instead of giving up, Ms. I-Know decides to seek out someone with some firepower as an Occult practitioner to help her out. (At least she knows her limitations!)

When Pete the Practitioner does his JuJu and the handsome hunk Ms. I-Know wants drops by, it’s just for a booty call. Ms. I-Know gets indignant and a fight ensures. (Sound familiar?) Mr. Handsome Hunk walks away merrily to meet one of his other squeezes and moves on down the road. Later when Ms. I-Know realizes what she has done, she goes in search of the practitioner and bitches Pete the Practitioner out. “You said you could make him love me! He only came over to have sex! I’m not some sort of tramp!” (And etc.) Ms. I-Know’s rant is so expletive laden it could peel paint off the walls.

Hollywood is to blame here, folks, not Pete the Practitioner. Why? Well Hollywood has a wonderful way of mis-interpreting the Occult, Witchcraft & yes even Vodu as far more than what it is. In fact, a spell is shown to always work, always be ultimately powerful, and always permanent. That’s a fairytale folks. You rea that? A fairetale!

Pete the Practitoner DID his job. He cast the love spell and yeah Mr. Handsome Hunk dropped by. Pete’s job is over. It is YOU as a woman whose job it is to make any man find a reasont o love you especially permanently if you truly want a long lasting relationship.

Love = Sex

For many of you, love equals sex. Don’t’ believe me? Why do you call screwing ‘love making’? Hello? That’s not making love, that’s getting animalistic and screwing aka having sex! It’s your own damned fault because all of you as a society have mislabled things to the point it’s all screwed up and you get all honked off because he drops by to ‘make love’. But you want to get to know him better and well baby, Mr. Handsome Hunk ain’t interested in nesting with you. You see women nest which is to say you like to find a home, build a home and reproduce. Mr. Handsome Hunk is in the prime of his life and he likes variety. Tying himself down to you just ain’t in the plans, baby.

You see, most men already know that the way to a woman’s sexual parts is through her heart. Tell her stuff she wants to hear, treat her nice and “Abracadabra, Alakazam!” she’s yours. Yes much easier than not. Most women are dying for the romance, love and affection they see on TV or in the movies or read about in dime store paperbacks.

“But Moloch, he said such nice things to me!” yeah and you wrapped your legs around him, didn’t you? Of course you did. You thought by giving yourself to him, you’d be able to keep him. LoL Lied like hell, didn’t he? OH yes it hurts and hurts badly. *shrugs* I can’t speak for all men but I have watched many a player and watched many men be played as well.

It is YOUR JOB as a woman to find out what it is he likes, how he likes to be treated and then decide if you want to be with him BEFORE you open your legs to him! Hello? Some men know what they want in a woman and a relationship and if you quickly open yourself to him, guess what? He figures you’ll do it for any guy who talks nice to you so he relegates you to ‘needy’ and ‘trampy’ and moves on.

Why Men Wander

Men wander or ‘cheat’ on their S/O’s usually due to the fact most women are untrained when it comes to sex. Having been a free spirit myself since my divorce, I have been amazed at how so few women know much about sex. The vast majority think just spreading your legs is all a man wants. Guess again.

Men like a little mystery. We enjoy a wide variety of sex from role playing to kinky fetishes to trying new things and lots in between. I am amazed also at how little imagination most women have when it comes to sex. Tell a woman you want her to wear something special to the bedroom and you get the deer in the headlights stare, “My husband never asked for any of that!” Well sweetie, I ain’t your damned ex-husband!

“He wants to have sex with what? Where?” your girlfriends ask. Well really is it right discussing your personal sex life let alone what Mr. Handsome Hunk wants with your g/f’s, sisters or mothers? No it’s not right but a LOT of you do that. I have dumped women for discussing our sex life. To me that is a breach of trust. I do not discuss my sex life with my buddies or brothers let alone Dad. Yeesh. Loose lips sink ships. Okay girls? Keep your trap shut and you may be able to keep Mr. Handsome Hunk.

IF your man wants a BJ or anal penetration or he wants to suck your toes (or vice-versa) or anything out of the ordinary, then you need to make a firm decision as to whether or not you want to have this man as your partner. Why? Because let’s say your man likes to wear your panties just in the bedroom. If that disgusts you, guess what? He’ll find someone who will allow him to do that. Hello?

Maybe he wants to role play you as his babysitter and he’s a little boy. If you can’t do that then all right but realize the likelihood of him wandering is high. He will find a woman who will give him what it is he wants. If he likes BJ’s but you find them repulsive and even if you decide to go ahead and give him one, he will know it’s not your thing and most likely will wander to find someone who loves to do it.

Women do not like to think they’re bad at sex. I’ve met women who do not know how to moan, whimper, breathe heavy, pant or anything of a sexual nature. Again it goes back to the fact they are untrained and think they know all they need to know. Ever wonder why some men chase hookers? It’s because hookers have done it all, seen it all and are highly experienced. Nothing fazes them. I know this because I used to do Sorcery work for some hookers when I lived in Florida. Nah they didn’t pay me that way but gave me cold hard cash. I did JuJu to protect them AND to draw in customers to them. But they know a lot about sex. A woman could learn a lot from a hooker just by friending her.

So Where Is Love?

When you think of a love spell as seen on TV, what you are seeing is:

1. Drawing Towards spell
2. Bend Over spell
3. Never Ending spell

Number 3 does not exist except in fantasy novels, movies & TV shows. There is no such thing as a ‘permanent spell’. None.  Period. A love spell in the modern sense is comprised of numbers 1 & 2. It is not a one shot thing either. It requires first to draw the person you desire towards you THEN to perform a Bend Over spell which in effect is a lot like a Commanding or Compelling. Yes we are talking about bending his will to want to be with you.

With all that said, you CAN tie a man up to be just yours but realize a couple of things first:

1. He won’t wander but if he had a penchant to wander before, he will become listless over time and possibly become boring.

2. He may become violent because he wants to wander & play but is unable to do so because he is tied down to you. Thus he may take is aggression out on you.

3. Tying a man up and keeping him tied is going to require a LOT of work and it is a paint in the behind. When you stop, the spell is broken and he will be free to wander yet again.

Now bringing him to you often is a large hurdle in and of itself. Lots of you gals want a guy that some other woman has already claimed or one who has devoted himself to a particular female. In that case, you need a Break Up spell done first which reauires you to formally declare you wish to invade this man’s life and destroy it so that you can have him all to yourself. So in effect, you are a home wrecker on top of a selfish child. (Know anyone like this?)

Once you get him to come to you, then you must figure out what it is he wants and give it to him. That means you better know his turn ons, turn offs, desires, dreams, goals and wishes and they better not be just those about sex. It is said, “Men marry their mothers and Women marry their fathers” and to some extent this is true. If your father was a stand up guy, you’ll want a man who is also a stand up guy. Was your father protective? Spoke clean and not vulgar? Was he a professional, semi-skilled or general laborer? You as a woamn need to find out what his mother was like. It is her personality that will attract Mr. Handsome Hunk to you in the most positive manner. However you need to realize that if Mr. Handsome Hunk may know things about his mother that you won’t know so you’ll be guessing unless you know his mother and have spent time with her.

It is also said “Before you can love another, you must first love yourself” and that’s not to say you need to be arrogant and in love with yourself like some egotistical model but rather have a high self-esteem and like yourself enough to care about yourself in appearance, mental faculties and reasoning. Doubt me? Look at women you know who have the ideal mates already landed. What do they have you don’t?

Self-esteem issues an be repaired with some counseling and dedication. A little confidence goes a long way with most men. But realize we as men have far more things on our minds than just sex. Yeah sure some guys live for their penis and hey, that’s their right to do so. Some want to add another notch on their bedpost. Some want to find someone compatible and settle down. I’ve seen these latter guys go through hell trying to find a suitable partner. Lots of women out there but so many fixated on six pack abs & how much is in your bank account that it’s about as sickening as the men focused on pornography models.

The Real Key

My advice is when you meet a man, resist the urge & temptation to have sex until you KNOW he is the one. He’s interested in you? Really? Good then make him earn your respect and your affections. Secondly, learn all you can about sex. There are sex instructional videos (not pornography) that can teach you new ideas and how to handle old style requests from BJ’s to anal penetration.

Anyone offering to do love spells cheap and trying to tell you they’re permanent are full of shit and you should grab your wallet and run like hell the other direction! Fast! A love spell should at best spark the interest of the target who the spell is aimed at.

Realize the best thing to do is to learn how to please him sexually. Ever see a gorgeous hunk with a not-so attractive woman? That’s because she knows what she’s doing in the bedroom and can deliver. It’s not all about the vagina, ladies. That vagina is designed to give birth and built to take a baby’s new born head. Some men like it tight so the anal penetration is more their style or oral pleasure. And spitting is akin to saying, “you’re not good enough for me!” thus it may be prudent to find a man who fits your ideals and your life.

Sex in our society is so taboo that it is more often than not banned from polite conversation. Ever wonder why? Because the Bible says it is! There's your problem right there. Maybe it would be worth your time & effort to focus on telling a man how to give you an orgasm and for you to learn from him how he likes to have an orgasm. Make his eyes roll up inside his skull and you'll know you've hit home. After that he'll judge you based on how you treat him.